Creating a Healthy Lifestyle

Marriage in the beginning

Bob was married to Cindy for about four years and they were happy together. They shared many things together with a lot of happy times. Their love became stronger every year and they felt very much in love. It was a marriage made in Heaven, they felt.

But after four years things changed. They no loner felt the same for each other. Cindy became more distant from Bob. She would do her own thing and she was happy being by herself. She began to have other interests with women she could share her interests with. She was still faithful to her marriage and wanted children, and she did enjoy being with Bob. But each day the couple became more distant from each other. Cindy would do her own thing and Bob went to work and was very tired when he came home. When he did come home he didn’t say much to Cindy. He would eat the meal that Cindy cooked without saying a word and then would go to the Living Room to watch television. Very Little was said during that time. It was quiet but not peaceful.

Cindy was continuing to create distance between her and Bob, and this gave her some comfort. She didn’t feel the love that she once felt for him. But she wasn’t happy and became more sad and distant from Bob. She wasn’t happy at home. She would try to find comfort in her friends. But even though she liked being with her friends it wasn’t enjoyable as it used to be. But she still reached out to them for companionship. It temporarily relieved her sad mood and her loneliness in the marriage.

Bob Turns to Alcohol

Bob also changed from his feelings of love for Cindy. He no longer felt the same for her. His love for Cindy was once very strong and he wanted to be with her as much as possible. Recently When he came home from his job as a bus driver he wouldn’t say much and avoided being close to Cindy.

Cindy would just say a few words and would go to her room and read a magazine. There was silence in the room. Bob didn’t say much and would just ignore her.

Cindy often cried alone in the room and hoped that things would change in the marriage. She really loved Bob and they once had a very close relationship with each other. For some reason she never thought that their relationship would get this bad. Now she is unhappy in the marriage that she was once happy with.

Bob felt the same way. He never thought his marriage to Cindy would ever get this bad. He didn’t want this to happen to their marriage like this. But he turned to alcohol to give himself relief. He made some new friends when he went to the Bar and this gave him temporary relief from the problems at home. But when he came home from his escape from a dying marriage it was the same thing: Cindy would go to her room after she cooked dinner and Bob would go to his own room. There was silence in the night.

While Bob would escape with alcohol, Cindy would cry herself to sleep and the following day seek comfort from her women friends as much as she could.

A Closer Look at the Marriage

The couple were married for five years and it seemed to be a happy relationship in the beginning. They had dreams of a happy marriage with children in their lives. But communication between them was becoming more negative and distant. The closeness in their marriage dissipated without their awareness.

The couple began to grow further apart and there were a lot of silent times. But both Cindy
and Bob were unhappy. Bob kept a distance and soothed his mind with alcohol, which gave him only temporary relief from the unhappiness in the marriage. Cindy felt lonely at home, but only found temporary relief when she was with her women friends. The distance between the couple widened to the point that the problems between them became irreconcilable.

A marriage needs to be nurtured to prevent a problem like the marriage of Cindy and Bob. The first step is to talk with each other and disclose one’s feelings to the other. A couple would also need to talk about positive things in the relationship and share one’s desires and dreams.

It is also crucial to have full disclosure with each other to maintain the closeness with each other. And it’s important to emphasize positive communication and listen to each other’s needs and desires. Depending on friends or alcohol instead of working together as a couple only increases the emotional distance from each other.

Couple Make a New Commitment to Each Other

In conclusion, even though the marriage is in trouble it is still possible to resolve the problems in the relationship if there is a desire and a new commitment for each other. In this case the couple agreed to work on their relationship because they still love each other. Accepting therapy is the beginning of a new and positive change in the life of this couple if they make a commitment together.