Creating a Healthy Lifestyle

CHANGING THE WAY YOU LIVE

We live in a world that is busy, stressful, and in a hurry. There is really no time to think things through. There is stress and sometimes heartache. Relationships are fleeting and we rush through things without thinking things through. I will discuss a marriage that became more distant over time and how the couple came to a solution of the problem:

The Marriage of Henry and Diane

Henry and Diane had a wonderful Wedding and they were very happy on their wedding day. All the world seemed to revolve around them. They felt a mutual commitment for each other. And they looked forward to a life together with love and happiness.
Everyone has a dream of a happy life and happiness. When couples marry they look forward to a happy life together. It is a dream that all couples look forward to in their life together.

Henry and Diane had these feelings and hope for the future. Being in love was the most important thing in a relationship, Diane felt. She wanted a happy marriage that she always had dreams about. She and Henry met at their high school prom and a few years later they encountered each other. Both Diane and Henry fell in love again after not seeing each other since high school.

One night Henry asked Diane to marry him. Diane was surprised and didn’t expect him to ask her to marry him, although she really wanted him to ask her. She accepted and they both looked forward to a happy life together.

FIVE YEARS LATER–A Child is born

Five years went by and the couple was blessed with a child that they both wanted and hoped for: a baby girl who is now three-years-old. They both looked forward to this day. But the child didn’t bring the couple closer together. Instead, they felt apart from each other.

The couple’s conversations were all about the child but lacked the intimate conversations with each other. They took care of their child’s needs but neglected their partner’s needs. This brought them further apart after a few years.

The Couple are Becoming more Distant

Henry and Diane became more distant as the months passed by. Diane asked Henry to come to counseling with her because she really wanted to work on their troubled marriage. She was happy with their child but for some reason she and Henry became further apart from each other. Diane felt lonely when she was with him and they no longer shared their feelings with each other. Henry was focused only on making enough money to support Diane and the child. He didn’t think of himself or their relationship. There were a lot of periods of silence that continued until there was little communication between the couple.

The Sound of Silence

At this point in their relationship it became uncomfortable for both partners. Silence became the norm and there was no going back to the early days when the couple were very much in love with each other. Over the years the couple had many intimate conversations with each other. But after eight years together they no longer shared their feelings and desires with each other. Of course it didn’t occur over a short time: It was slowly happening over the years, especially after their child was born.

In Search for a Solution

Diane became more unhappy and depressed. One day she realized in her mind that she really didn’t want a divorce. But she did lose some of her love for Henry. This is the man that she loved very much and now she is afraid of losing those feelings for him. She thought that she can’t let him go. She really loved him but failed to tell him when they became more distant from each other.

The couple had a social bond with each other that was still there but not expressed. Diane was thinking about these things when divorce was becoming more imminent.

Couple began to Communicate

One morning Diane got breakfast ready and she was determined to talk to Henry. The couple hadn’t talked to each other for months, but only went through the motions. But Diane was determined to start the conversation: “Henry I was thinking that we should try to work on our marriage. We had so much together and I really don’t want a divorce because I love you.”
Henry didn’t expect Diane to talk to him and said, “I never expected you to say that. I thought it was over.”

The barrier was finally broken and the couple talked about their love for each other, which suffered during the time of their separation from each other. now the couple made a new commitment to save their marriage and nurture their love for each other. This is just the beginning of a new commitment together.