Stephanie\u00a0 asks, “I’ve tried to meditate or relax but it’s hard for me.\u00a0 I have a lot\u00a0of stress at work, and my two teenage kids drive me crazy.\u00a0 My husband works a lot and he’s not too supportive.\u00a0 How can I relax with all of this stress?”<\/p>\n
Stephanie is overwhelmed with the ‘bad’ stress that she experiences every day.\u00a0 As she continued to talk about her problems, tears began to flow down her cheeks.\u00a0 “I don’t know where to start. There are too many things to worry about.”<\/p>\n
After attending a few counseling sessions. Stephanie decided\u00a0to talk with her husband, Joe.\u00a0 “I don’t know if you know what I’ve been going through for the last year, but I need your support, Joe.\u00a0 I wish you could help me with the kids, because they are getting out of control. They don’t listen to me.” Stephanie pleaded with him while tears flowed profusely from her eyes.”<\/p>\n
Joe was taken aback, as if he didn’t know there was a problem.\u00a0 He had been so involved with his job at the department store where he worked that he never recognized what Stephanie was going through.\u00a0 But then he said, in a gentle and caring way, “I’m sorry that I didn’t know that you were having a hard time.\u00a0 I guess I thought you were strong and didn’t need my help. But I guess I was wrong!”<\/p>\n
Stephanie was relieved that Joe understood her feelings and the stresses that she was going through.\u00a0 She was grateful that Joe cared about her feelings.<\/p>\n
This was a new beginning for this couple.\u00a0 Joe was ready to take more responsibility at home.\u00a0 And he was able to talk to the children and set reasonable rules.\u00a0 This relieved a lot of stress for Stephanie.\u00a0 She felt more in control of her life and was now able to relax and meditate.\u00a0 After six months, Stephanie seemed happy with her sparkling smile.\u00a0 She said, happily: “I feel very relaxed today.\u00a0 The kids are even listening to me more than they ever did!” Now, Stephanie will be able to enhance herself in a way she’s never done before.<\/p>\n
In one Chapter of my book, Create a Healthy Lifestyle, I\u00a0 discuss the importance of self-esteem and enhancing the self.\u00a0 In Stephanie’s case, she needed to resolve the distress at home before she could work on herself.\u00a0 As she felt more in\u00a0control of her life– and\u00a0have a better relationship with Joe–she\u00a0would be\u00a0able to work on her “self.”\u00a0 It will be easier for her to relax and feel at peace.<\/p>\n
Essentially, it’s important to resolve the problems and stressors around you at home or at work.\u00a0 Then you will be able to enhance your self.\u00a0 Eventually, you will be able to be mindfully aware of the experiences in your life.\u00a0 Meditation will be easier, and you’ll be on your way towards a “healthy lifestyle.”<\/p>\n
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